My name is Nydia S. Wells-Evans. I am a native of New Orleans, La. I have been through a lot, but thank God I don't look like what I've been through. My abuse started during my childhood years. I am a product of an abusive relationship. My parents would fight several times per day. Ironic as it may seem, if they missed a day they would definitely make up for it the next. I watched my mother express herself freely everyday and my dad tear her down because he wanted things his way. Needless to say, this tore me down emotionally as well as mentally. I grew up thinking that the male was superior and the female was supposed to listen. I vowed that I would never accept or go through what I witnessed. Therefore, I went through most of my years being submissive to everyone. I figured that if I didn't argue back or be rebellious it would make life a lot easier. Boy was I wrong! I've been in several unhealthy relationships.I have been a victim of domestic assault as well as sexual assault. For as long as I could remember, I was shut down from the world. I would go through life just holding all of my emotions inside. Little did I know that I was only making matters worse. Now that I think about it, I feel like I was assaulting myself. As long as I bottled up all of my emotions inside, I became more and more angry with the world. My anger showed on my face. I walked around carrying my feelings on my sleeve and became more upset every time someone mentioned how mean I looked.
I also had self-esteem issues for a while. I no longer have self-esteem issues, I just feel like if you are not taking care of me nor doing anything for me, I could care less what you have to say or how you feel about me. I know that there are some people out there with those issues, and knowing how it feels to have been there I know I can be a great deal of help. I wanted to do something to help those children that are growing up the way I did. I want to help those who are in need of help. I want to be that ear, helping hand and that shoulder that I needed not so long ago. So since purple is the color for domestic violence and also represents royalty, I came up with the acronym B.O.W. then decided on a name from there. In 2015 the name BLESSING OUR WOMEN, Inc. derived. I know domestic violence is not only an issue for women but women are the majority of the victims.
Blessing Our Women is a NonProfit Organization bringing awareness to Domestic Violence. We strongly believe that every voice matters and every story counts...help us break the silence against domestic violence! B.O.W. for a new beginning. We admire the survivors, honor those taken, and never give up hope on ending domestic violence! Everyday women are faced with the challenge of deciding whether to stay in an abusive relationship or leave. Often times they stay and it results in death. It's time to bring an end to this and save our sister's life. B.O.W. Inc. is a New Orleans based organization whose Founder & CEO is a domestic violence survivor. Our vision is to bring awareness to others in a way to understand and provide support to the victim. Our mission is to empower, promote and support all women and their families. Our goal is to encourage and empower survivors through our annual luncheon and other activities. We will work with other organizations to help provide hope and healing and rebuild families.
I no longer wanted to suffer in silence so I found the strength, courage and voice to share my story with the intention of encouraging others to share theirs as well. There are so many people who are still suffering in silence and we are here to say you are not alone. You will find strength in sharing your story!
If you could share advice with victims or other survivors, what would you say?