My name is Nydia S. Wells. I am a native of New Orleans, La. I have been through a lot, but thank God I don't look like what I've been through. My abuse started during my childhood years. I am a product of an abusive relationship. My parents would fight several times per day. Ironic as it may seem, if they missed a day they would definitely make up for it the next. I watched my mother express herself freely every day and my dad would tear her down because he wanted things his way. Needless to say, this tore me down emotionally as well as mentally. I grew up thinking that the male was superior, and the female was supposed to do as she was told in a relationship. I vowed that I would never accept or go through what I witnessed. Therefore, I went through most of my years being submissive to everyone. I figured that if I didn't argue back or be rebellious it would make life a lot easier. Boy was I wrong! I've been in several unhealthy relationships. I have been a victim of domestic assault as well as sexual assault. For as long as I could remember, I was shut down from the world. I would go through life holding all of my emotions inside. Little did I know that I was only making matters worse. Now that I think about it, I feel like I was assaulting myself. As long as I bottled up all of my emotions inside, I became more and more angry with the world. Isn't that something, I was mad at the world for decisions I made and situations I decided to stay in. My anger showed on my face. I walked around carrying my feelings on my sleeve and became more upset every time someone mentioned how mean I looked.
I also had self-esteem issues for a while. I no longer have low self-esteem, I just feel like if you are not taking care of me nor doing anything for me, I could care less what you have to say or how you feel about me. I know that there are some people out there with those issues, and knowing how it feels to have been there, I know I can be a great deal of help. I wanted to do something to help those children that are growing up the way I did. I want to help those who are in need of help. I want to be that ear, helping hand and that shoulder that I needed not so long ago. I know domestic violence is not only an issue for women but women are the majority of the victims.
Lesson in life! A wise man sat in the middle of the audience and cracked a joke. Everybody laughed like crazy. After a moment, he cracked the same joke again. This time, less people laughed. He cracked the same joke again and again. When trhere was no more laughter in the crowd. HE SMILED AND SAID: You can't laugh at the same joke again and again, but why do you keep crying over the same thing over and over again?
Both of my children are named after me (Nydia):
Ny'Jai & Aidyn